We began seeing each other six months ago, so it is still a relatively young relationship.I’m not trying to take it for any more than it is at this time, but I also don’t want to get way overly emotionally invested in something that doesn’t have long-term potential, as has been my tendency to do in the past.As for your boyfriend being 22 years older than you, if he’s healthy and in good shape and takes care of himself, I wouldn’t worry much about it.
I get a variation of this letter every month or so and keep answering it publicly so that all the women — or men — in your situation will recognize themselves and MOA if there isn’t an absolute agreement on kids. It means your boyfriend has to be 100%, absolutely committed to the idea of having children with you.
And you know what happens when you get pregnant at 35?
You’re considered “high risk,” as in high risk for having a baby with birth defects, because you’re an “older mom.” If it sounds like I’m saying all this to scare it’s because I am. Teens shouldn’t be looking for baby daddies anyway.
However, Boyfriend and I see eye-to-eye in the way we behave towards each other and in terms of what type of future we might have together. We live 1000 miles away from each of our families (mine being my parents, his being his children, who are 5 and 8 years younger than me) so we haven’t met each other’s families yet, but he seems to have no nervousness about introducing me to his kids.
We have many mutual friends, and have met each others’ friends from other parts of the country with good results.
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