Yes, I would date a recovering alcoholic, and if he's serious enough about recovery to bring his A. I order my ginger ale, and I sip on that while I enjoy conversation with my drinking family and/or friends.
If you have a problem with this, please be gentle when you dump him.
If the person I am dateing can not attend or be around drinking than we don't have much in common. I want someone who can go have fun with out the alcohol. He knows that I will have a drink on occasion, but, I am not going out to get drunk anymore. I always felt guilty if I had a glass of wine at dinner ..it's kinda like waving a big piece of chocolate cake in front of a dieter. It all depends on how spiritually comfortable you are within yourself. heck i have even offered him a drink every once in awhile when i do see him... And, that is exactly what I am hoping for with this guy. how long he has been on the program..how he came to be on the program... Again, you NEVER become "recovered" if you are a true alcoholic.
But if your a non-drinker shouldn't be a problem ... It was a bit of a shock at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I admired his desire to want to better himself, and not be stuck in a really bad downward spiral. The AA program and the 12 steps are a way of life that we could all benefit from. and he knows he can have a social drink and it wont put him back to where he was before.... I want him to be able to go out, and if he feels like it, have a drink, just one, and be ok with that. he did this for himself 6months before i started seeing him again.... it will give you a little more insight into if he is serious about kicking this habit... The one thing that ALL alcoholics have in common is once they put alcohol into their system, there is no guarentee what will happen.
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We talk a couple times a day, laugh a lot, and have fun when we are together. They also have ALANON which is a program for friends/family who's lives have been affected by alcoholism (whether the person is in the AA program or not).
Last night, we were driving around, and stopped at a red light. i would not because I shoot pool and attend pool tournaments on a regular bassis. There are so many misconceptions about alcoholics and AA.
Sober & Single is an internet website for sober singles looking for love, dating and romance; people whose common bond is their desire to date others who wish to be in an alcohol-free relationship.I've never gone to a meeting, and I wouldn't have the slightest clue on what to expect, but I know that he does have a friend that he goes with already, so it's good to know that he does have someone, besides myself, that supports him in this. when i first started dating him i didnt know how bad he actually was... When I say alcoholics can have a life and go into establishments that serve alcohol, I didn't mean they can suddenly drink alcohol non-alcoholically. I commend anyone who takes a pro-active stance on their addiction and works to overcome it. I know its an irrational thing, but I really cant trust anyone who drinks more than socially and I would always fear that theyd relapse.i knew he liked going out and having a beer to unwind from a stressful day at work... A true alcoholic never "learns how to drink" normally. it would probably be best to date someone who is not an alcoholic trying to better him/herself. I know its a harsh judgement, but Id be a nervous wreck and overreacting all the time in fear of him drinking...An alcoholic, who is working the program and secure with his or her sobriety, can very well be with someone who drinks. i decided I would just refrain from putting myself in that situation since it is a sensitive issue.If they are truly working the AA program the way that it is suggested, they will be able to make SOBER decisions and decide to leave a relationship or establishment if they feel that is in their best interest. I dont mean to diminish the efforts of those recovering, and I am not assuming they will all relapse, just trying not to reopen issues from the past. I'm a recovering alcoholic myself, and if I'm at a restaurant or somewhere else where alcohol is served, it doesn't bother me.Your recovery is something you take very seriously.