But generally speaking, what I’m saying here is good reasoning to follow.
In terms of the way that it feels to a guy when a girl says I love you first, well, it depends.
It is like the “kiss of death.” While I understand the advice of not jumping the gun, as we women are supposed to be “more emotional,” I am in a relationship now where there is a lot of “hinting” around it going on and it is really tempting to “come out and say it.” What does a guy think about the age old question?
If the woman makes this “big move” first, does it make a guy squirm…or run?
When you say it to him, it will most likely come across as you forcing it on him.
Now, I don’t know you, I don’t know him and everyone is different.
The lovespoon is a traditional craft that dates back to the seventeenth century.
Reason being, if you think in terms of having the power in the relationship, you’re going to be making “power plays” and doing all sorts of screwy and weird stuff to try and protect yourself from losing this imagined power. As a result, the guy will be weirded out and he’ll distance himself and put up emotional and mental barriers to protect himself from manipulation.I would generally say that it’s better for the guy to say it to you first.The reason being is that to us, the saying of it isn’t a big deal in it of itself.The earliest known dated lovespoon from Wales, displayed in the St Fagans National History Museum near Cardiff, is from 1667, although the tradition is believed to date back long before that.The lovespoon was given to a young woman by her suitor.Other difficult carvings, such as chains, were as much a demonstration of the carver's skill as a symbolic meaning.