If you’re still in love with your baby daddy, have feelings for your baby daddy, or you’re only bidding your time with your new man until your baby daddy decides that he wants to take you back, these are all things that should be communicated.
I’ve been in situations where I only realized afterwards that I was merely a pawn in a much more complicated ex-relationship chess match.
If the new relationship is nothing more than a complicated charades game to get your ex to start caring about you again, just be honest with yourself and your new man.
It’ll save everyone a lot of headaches and heartaches.
On the other hand, let’s say you’re over your ex but your ex isn’t over you.
The holidays are a good example; I’m sure many of you navigated the awkward conversations that ensued as children exchanged hands and homes in an attempt to honor the holiday spirit with some form of tensely negotiated civility.
I am saying that you and your new man need to have an honest discussion about what you both deem as important for the child, the influence you believe your child’s father should have on the current relationship (if any), and if it’s important to you that in the everlasting words of Rodney King, “we all get along.” It’s equally important that you’re honest about the overall status of your relationship with your ex.
This includes being honest with your current boyfriend with yourself.
This is what people mean when they say "it's a package deal."These days, with the divorce rate hovering close to 50 percent, the likelihood of dating a man with children is pretty high.
Dating a divorced dad has many unique challenges that you won’t face with childless men.
If you’ve ever babysat, you know one kid is easier than three or four. The divorced dad doesn’t have to get along with his ex all the time, but if their relationship is rocky or she is a mean or difficult person, this can create strain on your relationship.