(But) I’ve been alone for a few years now and it seems harder than ever to meet a man. ” This may come as a shock, but being a single woman looking for love in Southwest Florida poses some challenges. “(Perhaps) my prince is riding his white horse somewhere else?
“I’m thinking I’m either hard to match—wonderful as I am—or this is a geographically undesirable area for me,” says Eddy, who splits her time between homes in Fort Myers and the Panhandle.
The man got a bit awkward but kept the date going, but the woman never left them.
I hear that from a lot of men: ‘My wife didn’t want to.’ Whether that was go here, play golf, go boating, travel, whatever.” But while the mystery of why men would be interested in younger women has some perplexed, others, such as the matchmaker L’Heureux, recognize there are still some good ones out there.
“So, it was our first date and their second.” And while that seems to suggest the women of Southwest Florida should lower their expectations, the opposite is true. If you don’t have time to call me, you don’t have time for a relationship,” she says.
“Men don’t have to pursue women anymore because women are chasing them all over the place,” says Joanna Simmons*, a 60-year-old widow who moved to the area seven years ago from Michigan and bemoans the use of texting in the dating arena. But while the phrase “Beggars can’t be choosers” rolls off the tongue easily, the women of Southwest Florida are definitely not beggars. Worse yet, Naples is a very married town.” And there’s the rub.
“They don’t want to buy someone another house, another car.” “The people they’re meeting are not serious about a relationship,” L’Heureux says.
“There are a lot of players out there that are not serious—are not relationship material.” And then there’s the elephant in the room: Many single men are looking for younger women.
Many have grown accustomed to getting what they want when they want it and aren’t about to settle now. Singles in the area are overwhelmed by couples, making their situation seem all the more, shall we say, desperate? “When you speak to women they may think that that’s true,” says Debra L’Heureux of My Top Matchmaker matchmaking service. It’s just that the gentlemen are on the golf course or playing tennis or boating and they’re just not coming in contact with the right gentlemen.” Well, that sounds reasonable.