He has also slept with friends, which I find a bit strange, as it goes over that friends/lover/feelings boundary, and admittedly I have been hung up on this issue with him in the past, but kind of accepted our different histories now.
I’ve spoken to a male friend to try and get his perspective and he reassured me that it is typical male behaviour (including looking at porn, which my partner – to my unease – and male friend does).
I feel really confused, as my current partner used to tell me that he only had eyes for me and he was (my name-)sexual/asexual, as he stopped looking at other girls in that way.
After this all came out about him looking at dating sites, he seemed to take this all back and reminded me that he is heterosexual.
He said that he only looks at it to use the function where he can look through it and he can click on “yes” or “no” (i.e. He says that he always clicks on “no” even if they’re good looking.
He reassured me that he was not going on there to look for girls, but just to look at their pictures.
However, in the old days we would have to find a photo, write a letter, post it to a PO Box and wait for a reply.
”, “is he such a sexual being that when I’m not there, his eyes wander and therefore will he cheat on me?I feel really confused though, as he told me that he used to do this (“yes” or “no” thing on the dating website) before we started a relationship almost just to fill the time I guess.He also told me that the reason he’s started doing it again recently was because he’s bored whilst he’s staying in hotels.This is a really tough one because where do you draw the line between normal and dangerous – especially as technology has made the line much more blurry.In the past, we might actually look at contact adverts in the back of newspapers for a bit of fun imagining what it might be like to meet these people.”, “what if he goes on other sites to look at women?