Real love is unconditional and does not notice any mistakes of the front person such that the result is going apart.
In fact, it is the permanent positive power that naturally instills happiness and sweetness in a relation no matter how the front person may be. Unfortunately many people buy into the 'Disney' style of a romantic 'in love' scenario.
In an attempt to cover over this fear, we may focus on more superficial concerns, pick fights with our partner or, in extreme cases, completely give up the relationship.
We are rarely fully aware of how we defend against these existential fears.
Worrying over how we will feel keeps us from seeing where our feelings would naturally go.
It’s better to be open to how our feelings develop over time.
If you're lucky, the feelings of being 'madly in love' will subside and a closer love to being unconditional will arise with someone and you find yourself living with your best friend.
This can be wonderful and possibly having a relationship with your best friend may have a better chance of lasting.
In a matter of seconds, we can feel anger, irritation or even hate for a person we love.
I have actually learned about this at I agree that true love is unconditional. I too hit this only recently even after knowing that true love is unconditional (IMO) and it turns a love into a possessive need and ones life takes a different path.
Then when all falls apart, it takes a while to get back to your own path in life and knowing who you are.
The story of lost love is one most of us can tell, and the question, "Why do relationships fail? While our fears may manifest themselves in different ways or show themselves at different stages of a relationship, we all harbor defenses that we believe on some level will protect us from getting hurt. A new relationship is uncharted territory, and most of us have natural fears of the unknown.
Whether we know it or not, most of us are afraid of really being in love.
They represent starting our own lives as independent, autonomous individuals.